Sunday, January 31, 2010
On January 7 at 5:11 am Sydney Grace Fodrie was born into our family. Like her namesake, Grace Fodrie, Sydney Grace was destined to be a great educator. She may have only had 20 days, but in her brief time on earth Sydney taught us all so many invaluable lessons.
Sydney Grace’s life reminded us all of how very precious each day should be. She was such a fighting little spirit. No one could have struggled to stay alive harder than she. Many, many, many, times we thought that it was her last moment. She continued to surprise us all by working so hard for one more breath and then another. To see that tiny sick body cycle from dusty purple to pink over and over, to see her work for a little more time to be with her family, to see this taught me to appreciate every moment of each day more.
Sydney Grace’s story touched so many hearts and inspired a network of support that spanned the entire world. The outpouring of love for her and her family was almost beyond comprehension. Letters, blogs, Facebook fans, prayers, phone calls, cards, visits, gifts, blankets, and the most delicious meals showered down. The great outpouring of love from friends, family, and even total strangers sustained our bodies (Light Rolls, Chew Bread, casseroles and more) and our souls throughout her life. Sydney Grace taught me so much about how to care for others. There are so many times when I have not known what to do or say when a friend or a family member was hurting and so I was silent. From her I’ve learned that the words “I’m thinking of you” are powerful and strong. I learned the power and the blessing of “being there.”
As Sydney Grace’s story unfolded I learned so much about each person’s hidden potential. After the first sonogram Joel called to tell me the doctors had seen some problems. He said that for about 30 seconds he was disappointed and worried about the demands a special needs child would present. Then he said that he realized every child is born with challenges and gifts. He said, “It is each parent’s job to help their child meet his or her fullest potential, whatever that potential may be. ” I am still awed by the wisdom and bravery of these words. Joel and Lindsey accepted the job of raising a child with severe challenges. They accepted that Sydney’s potential may have been only to breathe a few seconds. They were still determined to give Sydney her chance. When I first saw this tiny four pound child I could not have dreamed the impact she would have on her world. None of us could have imagined that Sydney would have the power to touch more lives in her twenty days than most people do in their entire lifetimes. I thank Sydney for making me realized I can never know the true potential, unseen and unimaginable, inside each person.
There are so many lessons of love I have learned from Sydney. I learned so much of the love of a mother as I watched strength flow from Sheri to Lindsey, from Lindsey to Sydney, from Sydney to the world. I have seen sisterly love as Lindsey, Paige, and Jessica leaned on each other, forming a triangle of strength. I saw love spring to life, instant and strong, in the eyes of my Jessica, as she held Sydney in her arms for the first time. I watched Joel and Glenn watch over their women with such love and concern and turned to see that same look in J and Will’s eyes. I so appreciate Kayla being there even when she was recovering from surgery. I have learned how friends carry you through the darkest times with love. I feel such gratitude for the kindness of the Hancock family, Hilary, Janet, Josie, and so many more. I learned love makes laughter bubble up in the worst minutes and most awkward moments, transforming them into sweet memories.
Lindsey spoke at Sydney’s funeral to say, “So to those of you that might fear we did not get the miracle we all prayed for, I say we received the full measure of that miracle and more.” I so agree. I am so humbled to have witnessed so many miracles throughout Sydney’s short life. Thank you, Sydney Grace. Thank you for making me see the miraculous gift of each precious day. Thank you for teaching me so many things about the miracle inside a caring gesture. Thank you for making me realize that miraculous hidden potential may lie inside each of us. Most of all Sydney Grace, thank you so much for each of the 20 days in which you showed us all the miracle that is LOVE.
Joel, Rafe and I visited Sydney's grave this morning. I wanted to make sure all her flowers were in place after all the rain and wind. Everything still looked perfect. I took some of the roses to hopefully dry and press. I am planning on making a scrapbook for Sydney and want to have the roses in it. I am so thankful that I have so many items and memories that I will be able to put in her book. I never thought I would have twenty days of memories.
Love to all,
Saturday, January 30, 2010
Please continue to pray for us,
Friday, January 29, 2010
Sydney Grace has touched so many lives in her short time. Joel and I have been amazed at the number of people that have been touched by Sydney Grace. I know that I will probably never touch the number of people all over the world that our precious Sydney has in her short time.
Of course, we all search for answers as we pass through difficult times in our lives. Both Joel and I trusted in God that there was a reason for Sydney to be sick. We knew that God would not give us anything that we could not handle. I believe the reason is that Sydney Grace brought so many people together and taught people about love. I feel very privileged to be her mother. It is an honor that God chose Joel and me to be her parents.
We want to thank everyone from labor and delivery at Carteret General. They treated us so well. We had the best nurses and doctors we could ever ask for, and we can never repay them. We want to thank Dr. Rule. My heart wants to burst when I think about all the support and love he showed Sydney Grace. We want to thank Aly Dart and Hilary Brindley. They have been so supportive of our family over the past three weeks. I don’t know how we will ever repay them. We want to thank all the church families across the state. Their prayers have uplifted our family. We want thank all the people that have shown us support by visiting in person or on facebook and the blog. It has been a great comfort to receive all the encouraging messages. Finally, Joel and I want to thank all our family. They have been a source of strength for us over the past five months.
So, please do not feel sorry for us. As I said before, it is a privilege to say that we are the family of Sydney Grace Fodrie.
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Lindsey, Joel, Rafe and their families are doing as well as can be expected. They all have their moments. The visitation for Sydney Grace will be tonight at Munden Funeral Home from 6-8pm and the Celebration of Life will be tomorrow at 11am at Carteret Memorial Gardens in Beaufort.In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Carteret General Hospital Foundation - Nursery, 3500 Arendell Street, Morehead City, NC 28557.
Thank you all for your thoughtfulness and generosity.
The future that I thought was bright,
now all looks dark without your light.
Potential gone; I cannot see
a future now for you, or me.
And yet; although your time was short,
and you didn't have the life you ought,
you brought me joy beyond compare
to counter now my dark despair.
You brought me hope for nine months long.
You placed within my heart a song.
A longer life was not to be.
So now, with prayers we set you free.
O God, please take this little life,
that won't now see a world of strife.
Surround your child with all your love,
and take her to your home above.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
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Monday, January 25, 2010
1. an effect or extraordinary event in the physical world that surpasses all known human or natural powers and is ascribed to a supernatural cause.
2. such an effect or event manifesting or considered as a work of God.
3. a wonder; marvel.
Is that not the PERFECT definition of Sydney Grace!? Happy 18 day Birthday Sweet Girl!!
Lindsey emailed me this picture of her today. She is such a prissy girl!! She has had a very good day with no apnea episodes! Praise God for these wonderful days with Sydney Grace!
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Lindsey (Sydney's Mom)
Friday, January 22, 2010
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Tuesday, January 19, 2010
"Sydney Grace is still having major apnea episodes with little time between them. I am planning on an all nighter. I just can't not hold her. I want her to feel her mommy with her at all times. Lindsey"
Please continue to pray for this family. This has to be excruciating.
Monday, January 18, 2010
There was a little excitement at the Fodrie house today. A friend of the family (Katie) stopped by to visit today and while watching Aunt P put Sydney's feeding tube in she passed out cold. So, they had to call the EMS, and of course everyone around thought they were coming because of Sydney. Katie came to and is ok thank goodness. Scary scary!!
Please everyone pray for Sydney to have another good night and thank you for your prayers thus far. Here's a few pictures from today.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
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Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Sydney has not had a good night. She has had several bad "episodes" today, but tonight was the worst. Please continue to pray for Sydney not to suffer. This is just horrible.
Apologies for not getting the prayer warrior slideshow updated, promise to do it tomorrow.
James 5:15-17 says "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." and Mathhew 18:20 "As we gather together we can claim God's powerful promise, For where two or three come together in my name, there am I with them."
And just to make things clear, we do not believe that our prayers are only answered when we get the answer WE want. God ALWAYS answers our prayers in His perfect way, regardless of if it's the answer we want/expect or not. So, just because yesterday's news was not what we prayed for, we will continue to pray and continue to Praise God for he is ALWAYS GOOD!
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
I've added a few pics to the Prayer Warrior Slideshow.....
Sydney Grace no longer has jaundice! There will be a more detailed update coming later. In the meantime, check out these pictures from today. I love the one with her legs crossed!!
Monday, January 11, 2010
I've had a couple people ask about sending cards. If you would like an address to send a card to, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
We would still love to see your pictures and add them to the slideshow of Prayer Warriors. You can email them to email@example.com
13 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother's womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
Sunday, January 10, 2010
I've also added to the Prayer Warrior slide show. It is amazing to me how many people from all over the country and world are praying for little Sydney. THANK YOU!!
Saturday, January 9, 2010
Once upon a special day in Heaven up above , The tiniest souls sat at God's feet, surrounded by his love. The time was coming, very soon, God said, do not be scared. Your family awaits your arrival, now let us get prepared. And so God looked upon these souls, in mute consideration. He knew the life each one would live, He weighed each situation.
The souls chatted amongst themselves, and wondered who they'd be. They knew the day grew closer; soon, they'd meet their family. How would you like to change the world? God asked each soul in fun. The chance to change a soul, a heart, is held by only one. I'm going to make the world laugh, one soul said with a smile, for laughter heals a broken heart, and helps us through each trial. Then take with you the brightest smile, and share your laughter well. The soul thanked God immensely, and down to earth he fell.
And I'll remind the world to sing, a sweet little soul told the Lord. I have the gift of a beautiful voice; I can hit every note and every chord. You’ll have the gift of music then, a voice, lovely and strong. Share your gift with others, and let them hear your song.
I will show compassion, the next little soul raised her hand. Some people only need a friend, someone to understand. Compassion is a good thing, God said with much delight. To you, I will give mercy. You'll perceive wrong from right. And so each soul shared every thought, their plans, their hopes, their dreams. And God explained that life, it is, much harder than it seems. And as each soul began to leave in a scurry of laughter and fun.
Heaven became quiet and still, for left was only one. Come sit with me my little child, God said with just a sigh. Do you know how many you will touch, in a world left wondering why? Before your life comes to an end, you will know much strife, but you'll teach those who know you, to cherish the smallest things in life. And some may only know you through a simple photograph, they'll never hold you in their arms, or memorize your laugh. Some may only know you through the words they read each day, but you'll do something wonderful, you'll make them stop and pray. The tiniest soul raised her head up, to touch God's firm, strong hand. Father, I am ready for, the life that you have planned. And I will do the best I can without a word or deed. For you Lord, are the planter, and I will be your seed. She could already hear many praying, and although they had not seen her face, they were praying for her safe arrival, they were asking for mercy and grace. What talent do I leave with Lord? What gift do you impart? All that you will need, God said, I've placed within your heart. And so God kissed this tiny child, knowing all that she would be, and whispered as he watched her go...You'll teach them . . . to love me.
- Author Unknown